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Posted On: 2012-08-03 14:28:56
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Is it rude to ask a girl on a 1st date that we go Dutch?

Is it rude to ask a girl on a 1st date that we go Dutch? Is it rude to ask a girl on a 1st date that we go Dutch?

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1 year 8 months ago

Why would you want to do that? Are you planning to take her somewhere expensive? If yes - THEN DON'T DO THAT.

If you want to get laid, take her somewhere more casual; to a coffee-shop, park, bar or something similar. That way you won't even have to go dutch, because 2 coffees cost like 2-5$. Show her that you are a FUN and exciting guy, show her that you have a great character and personality, that you can be flirty, playful, physical and interesting.

I'm actually a legitimate dating coach with a big following and a lot of successful students, so I know what i'm talking about.
I also wrote a book on the whole subject, called The Saulis Dating Guide - A Comprehensive Guide on How To Consistently Get Laid on The First Date. Just google it and you can find out more, or go to http://www.saulisdating.com
It's geared towards guys like you who don't know what to do and say on dates, in order to get laid or get a girlfriend.
Cheers!
raminvan
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1 year 8 months ago
And what makes you a "legitimate dating coach"?
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1 year 8 months ago
I work as a dating coach professionally - I earn my living doing this and I have a lot of happy students.

Pretty legitimate.
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1 year 8 months ago
Really! You make money from telling other People how to Date?
That sounds like that Movie with Will Smith.
Curious: how much do you charge?
And what do your students really get for their Money?
And is there any Guarantee of success?
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1 year 8 months ago
It's very different from that movie. What I do is meet up with students, assess them, evaluate what they have and what they lack, then work on fixing their flaws, be it confidence, body language, anxiety around people and so on. Then I teach them about the art of attraction and seduction, what to do, what to say and how to act on dates in order to get laid or get a girlfriend.
Depending on goals, if they can't get laid in their next 5 dates, they get money back. Had only 2 refunds.
300$/hour.
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1 year 8 months ago
And the best thing is - it get progressively better, because i teach them a certain skill set and a certain behavioral model around girls. The more they practice it and do it, the better they become. Many guys went from virgins to getting casual sex multiple times a week from different girls.
Anyway, my 1 on 1 coaching is very expensive, if I say so myself. But it's all condensed into the book i wrote, so anyone interested can read and get great results, although not as fast as 1 on 1 coaching

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1 year 9 months ago

No I think you can ask a Date for a Kiss and if she says Yes, then do not think of going Dutch on 1st date.
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4 years 3 months ago

You should tell her at the same time you ask her out on a date that you will each be paying your own way. Good luck on getting her out on a date.
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4 years 11 months ago

Depends on how good looking & sexy she is.
But generally if you do not want a 2nd date, go ahead and ask her to go Dutch in 1st date. And certainly forget Sex in the 1st night :)
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4 years 11 months ago

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4 years 11 months ago
Thank you, Dateblogger! Looks like an interesting site.

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5 years 1 month ago

Not necessarily rude, but disrespectful. It is certainly inadvisable, from your point of view, if you intend starting up a relationship. (I presume that's what you mean.) If you can't afford, or are unwilling to pay for your date in a particular eatery, because of the expense, then try finding a place to take her, that won't burn a hole in your pocket. That is, if you decide to pay for both.

How about just inviting her for a walk in the park and coffee afterwards? She would appreciate that you are interested in getting to know her.

If you ask a girl to go Dutch on her first date with you, more than likely you won't need to ask any questions about how to behave on the 2nd date.
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5 years 1 month ago
Yes, I totally agree with your points.
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5 years 1 month ago
Thanks, Sarah!
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4 years 11 months ago
What about sexual equality. What if she asks you to go Dutch. Would you feel offended?

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5 years 3 months ago

I believe that if you are candid and open, you can't go wrong. Offer to pay or say you are happy to pay; but, ask if you (the girl) wishes to or feels she'd like to split the bill... we can but it's not necessary. The point being, it sounds like both would be trying to understand and learn about each other and a relationship can only grow on this honest approach. Honesty is the best policy.



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